So where does a pickup artist (PUA/Terminator) frequent in order to spot a target and go for the kill?
He can be found testing his routine on a waitress, or secretly peering through the bookcases at the local B&N becoming versed in just enough knowledge to engage in some interest. And most definitely, he will try his lines in a pub or dimly lit lounge where there is a plethora of women to increase his odds and recover from rejection.
In this month’s Men’s Health article: “She’s Out There”, Kyle Western said, “The saddest thing you will ever see in a bar is the lights on at closing time.” He goes on to say that the guy who has been buying drinks all night will unlikely get the babe to go home with him. Why is this? Because the guy is a stranger and this is just a game.
This scenario is your average guy buying drinks- working hard until the end; it doesn’t happen. He’s a regular guy who just does not have great social skills, possibly because of today’s society and technologies. You don’t need to worry about him.
But with a PUA- Failure Is Not An Option. He will go bar to bar until the mission is accomplished i.e. taking a woman home.
"That's WHAT he does!
That's ALL he does!!" - The Terminator
He doesn’t go home alone at the end of the night; it is a Seek and Destroy mission!
So always be on your guard. Like a professional actor, the second you notice the person is acting, the show is over.
The goal of the PUA is to penetrate your guard but it’s so subliminal you don’t realize it’s happening and you don’t suspect a thing.
Here’s the technique from Strauss’ book, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists.
“The opener for example is casual. It’s not perceived as a pickup attempt. You are just being a friendly stranger when you walk up…” p216
The more research I find on the topic of the game and sexual behavior the more I find the obvious isn’t the driving force. Kyle says one reason the game continues is: inexperience. I don’t entirely agree with Kyle because the PUA is nothing but an experienced Game player and he is a smooth operator.
Be alert for these pick up strategies next time a “Terminator” a.k.a. PUA tries to initiate conversation and make a kill.
Here are some tips posted by Articles.com on how to seduce a woman in conversation:
♥ Work hard to seduce a woman from the moment you meet her
♣ Create a conversation that will put her under your seductive spell
♦ Use a unique opener- Ask good questions she’s never heard before
♠ Bring sexual innuendos into the conversation
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Saturday, July 4, 2009
Dog Psychology
“I never try to defend myself or apologize for being a womanizer. Why? Because a reputation is attractive to women. It’s true. I am the other man who guys worry about when they marry a girl.” P 135
The above quote is from one of the characters in *Strauss’ book who considers himself to be a seducer and flaunts the fact he is a ladies’ man.
Recently, I had the opportunity to spend a day at the dog races. The awaited event of careful planning and reservation ended in disappointment. I couldn’t help but marvel as I watched the emaciated, salivating dogs chase the unattainable lure, lap after lap.
With eyes launched on the steadfast rabbit, the dogs hastened with persistence, striving to seize the prize. My heart grew heavy as I realized the parallelism between the dogs’ psychology and my own.
Although, I wasn’t chasing rabbits for five years; I could have been- the end result was the same: the unattainable lure.
Life with a pickup artist (PUA) had left me emotionally emaciated and salivating for dreamlike expectations. The promise of marriage, the bond of commitment, and the purchase of our dream home in some beach town; happily ever after…, were purposefully unattainable.
Having been involved in a relationship with a man who espoused the philosophy of like-minded PUAs made the actuality of a life together illogical.
“… two things really mattered-freedom and women.” P165
What is your player dangling just within your reach?
Is it the illusion of love?
Or is it a relationship where no true intimacy is developing?
Are you becoming emotionally emaciated by suppressing the red flags you choose to ignore?
Here are a few warning signs:
1. Do most of his calls route to voice mail in your presence?
2. Does he check his caller id and not pick-up in you presence?
3.Walk into closed rooms to converse with family members and others?
4. Is his conversation carefully monitored- as not to slip up on anything he doesn’t want you to know about?
5. Does he exhibit secretive behavior including checking email behind closed doors?
6. Constantly remind you of the necessity of boundaries in the relationship?
7. Exclude you from his invitation with social networks in an attempt to conceal his relationships and contacts with other women? Ex: Facebook, My Space, Meet-Up Groups, Skype?
Check it out! My PUA was secretly on Chemistry.com and Match.com
If you have answered YES to most of the suggested warning signs it is time to consciously evaluate which direction the relationship is going. Remember: The PUA is a master at contrived conversation and is a student of the text, ever learning tactics to manipulate and degrade the female emotional psyche.
A healthy relationship is implausible if one partner exhibits silent, mysterious or enigmatic behavior.
citations from *Neil Strauss' book: The Game Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists.
The above quote is from one of the characters in *Strauss’ book who considers himself to be a seducer and flaunts the fact he is a ladies’ man.
Recently, I had the opportunity to spend a day at the dog races. The awaited event of careful planning and reservation ended in disappointment. I couldn’t help but marvel as I watched the emaciated, salivating dogs chase the unattainable lure, lap after lap.
With eyes launched on the steadfast rabbit, the dogs hastened with persistence, striving to seize the prize. My heart grew heavy as I realized the parallelism between the dogs’ psychology and my own.
Although, I wasn’t chasing rabbits for five years; I could have been- the end result was the same: the unattainable lure.
Life with a pickup artist (PUA) had left me emotionally emaciated and salivating for dreamlike expectations. The promise of marriage, the bond of commitment, and the purchase of our dream home in some beach town; happily ever after…, were purposefully unattainable.
Having been involved in a relationship with a man who espoused the philosophy of like-minded PUAs made the actuality of a life together illogical.
“… two things really mattered-freedom and women.” P165
What is your player dangling just within your reach?
Is it the illusion of love?
Or is it a relationship where no true intimacy is developing?
Are you becoming emotionally emaciated by suppressing the red flags you choose to ignore?
Here are a few warning signs:
1. Do most of his calls route to voice mail in your presence?
2. Does he check his caller id and not pick-up in you presence?
3.Walk into closed rooms to converse with family members and others?
4. Is his conversation carefully monitored- as not to slip up on anything he doesn’t want you to know about?
5. Does he exhibit secretive behavior including checking email behind closed doors?
6. Constantly remind you of the necessity of boundaries in the relationship?
7. Exclude you from his invitation with social networks in an attempt to conceal his relationships and contacts with other women? Ex: Facebook, My Space, Meet-Up Groups, Skype?
Check it out! My PUA was secretly on Chemistry.com and Match.com
If you have answered YES to most of the suggested warning signs it is time to consciously evaluate which direction the relationship is going. Remember: The PUA is a master at contrived conversation and is a student of the text, ever learning tactics to manipulate and degrade the female emotional psyche.
A healthy relationship is implausible if one partner exhibits silent, mysterious or enigmatic behavior.
citations from *Neil Strauss' book: The Game Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists.
Thursday, June 18, 2009
The Scent of a Player
I am able to smell a cop from a mile away…
after a whopping summons and the investment of a radar system to help me adhere to the posted limits.
I can pick up the scent of a player from a mile away… using personal experience, hindsight, and the playbook as my internal radar.
What is his scent?
He exudes the stench of a PUA.
Outwardly, he appears both interested and interesting, but inwardly, he is a gutted carcass- empty!
“Perhaps it was because attracting the opposite sex was the only area of my life in which I felt like a complete failure. Every time I walked down the street or into a bar, I saw my own failure staring back at me…” p30
What is his style?
Possibly he studies Martial Arts and is enrolled in Salsa lessons; two activities taken from his bible: The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists
He is most likely the guy with the gelled hair, bleached, pearly whites, tailored- shirt over a tee, prescribed smile and scripted conversation. He may arrive with a date and may have previously conversed with you. You are the target. The fact that he is with a woman means nothing.
What is his game?
You may be with a friend or in a group. He has a cunningly devised plan that uses flattery to initiate contrived conversation. Receiving the slightest response from you, he proceeds to advance with rehearsed techniques and an intent to seduce.
“After approaching the group… the key is to ignore the woman you desire while winning over her friends… If the target is attractive and is used to men fawning all over her, the pickup artist must intrigue her by pretending to be unaffected by her charm. This is accomplished by what is called a neg. Neither compliment nor insult, a neg is something in between- an accidental insult or backhanded compliment. The purpose of a neg is to lower a woman’s self esteem while actively displaying a lack of interest in her.” p20
What is his goal?
His goal is to allure using memorized lines and dialogue.
"There is a difference between a line and a pattern. A line is basically any prepared comment made to a woman. A pattern is a more elaborate script, specifically designed to arouse her." p58
He cautiously proceeds attempting to interpret your inner thoughts and actions, "using words coined by the community; others come by hypnosis and marketing jargon...that have been appropriated by pickup artists." p439
Terms and acronyms are found in the glossary of the text.
Here are just two:
FMAC- find, meet, attract, close
IVD- Interactive value demonstration: a short routine intended to hook the attention and interest of a woman one has just met.
Why all the trouble?
“I don’t alienate ugly girls; I don’t alienate guys. I only alienate the girls I want to f..k” p21
What should you do?
Recognize that there isn’t an ounce of truth to his charm and do not succumb to his flattery. Even if it is something your ears would like to hear. He is just trying to invoke an emotional connection with you. Cut him off at the pass.
If he begins hurling insults or compliments out of the norm or tries to use sarcasm to attack your self esteem: Walk away- don’t fan the embers!
If he tries the neg ignoring tactic- realize this is premeditated and realize he is a fraud. Don’t waste any time with an individual who needs a scripted text to carry on a conversation or meet women. Speaking from experience, I personally would advise complete avoidance of any individual who not only reads this trash, but relies on this type of material for empowerment.
Citations from The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists by Neil Strauss
Saturday, June 6, 2009
How To Expose A Player
Have you ever been played? Be honest. Have you ever been lied to? I think it is safe to say that we have all been down that road.
Ladies Beware.
You may have heard the dating scene referred to as, "The Game" and thought nothing more than an allusion to harmless flirtation. I am here to tell you that there is more to this title than meets the eye.
What would you do if you heard that there was an actual cult of men who deliberately and intentionally defile and abuse women for pure sport? They follow a playbook, memorize the plays and rally behind their coach, Mr. Neil Strauss.
Would you be mortified?
I was...
It is my hope to enlighten and arm woman with knowledge of the truth: that there is a "Secret Society of Pickup Artists."
Once again, ladies BEWARE!
I would like to share with you a brief excerpt from my up and coming book:
My goal: To uncover the lie believed by women who think they are entering relationships with men who desire to be sincere, committed and monogamous.
My hope: No further injustice will prevail.
Ladies Beware.
You may have heard the dating scene referred to as, "The Game" and thought nothing more than an allusion to harmless flirtation. I am here to tell you that there is more to this title than meets the eye.
What would you do if you heard that there was an actual cult of men who deliberately and intentionally defile and abuse women for pure sport? They follow a playbook, memorize the plays and rally behind their coach, Mr. Neil Strauss.
Would you be mortified?
I was...
It is my hope to enlighten and arm woman with knowledge of the truth: that there is a "Secret Society of Pickup Artists."
Once again, ladies BEWARE!
I would like to share with you a brief excerpt from my up and coming book:
The first set of the open mic was over. Feenixblueyes stepped off the stage, grabbed his rum and coke and proclaimed I was his fiancée. I felt the same sense of jubilation as when I had crossed the finish line of my last marathon. The announcement of the engagement revealed what was the best kept secret in two years; a secret hidden from his children, parents and relatives. However, before the second set of music, Feenix walked to the back of the lounge, headed towards the pool table, confronted his next target, and added her phone number into his list of contacts.
It was this experience that helped me uncover the game I had been living for the past five years.
I learned that there is a lie and a game considered acceptable in the dating forum. The lie is conceived long before a man allures a woman on the first date. The lie has been carefully planned and rehearsed with the intent to seduce and conquer by means of deception. The dialogue and scripted conversation can be found practiced among a secret society of men called "Pickup Artists." These fraudulent, seemingly “self confident players” are referred to as PUAs in Neil Strauss’ book entitled, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of a Pick up Artist.
After discovering a copy of the soft leather bound book resembling a Holy Bible in my fiance’s apartment, I was horrified as I read about our relationship chapter after chapter.
Underlined phrases and romantic innuendos jumped off the golden embossed pages. Not to mention, a sadistic cartoon drawing of a woman being hunted by a man. See below.
It was this experience that helped me uncover the game I had been living for the past five years.
I learned that there is a lie and a game considered acceptable in the dating forum. The lie is conceived long before a man allures a woman on the first date. The lie has been carefully planned and rehearsed with the intent to seduce and conquer by means of deception. The dialogue and scripted conversation can be found practiced among a secret society of men called "Pickup Artists." These fraudulent, seemingly “self confident players” are referred to as PUAs in Neil Strauss’ book entitled, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of a Pick up Artist.
After discovering a copy of the soft leather bound book resembling a Holy Bible in my fiance’s apartment, I was horrified as I read about our relationship chapter after chapter.
Underlined phrases and romantic innuendos jumped off the golden embossed pages. Not to mention, a sadistic cartoon drawing of a woman being hunted by a man. See below.
My goal: To uncover the lie believed by women who think they are entering relationships with men who desire to be sincere, committed and monogamous.
My hope: No further injustice will prevail.
"There is nothing hidden that will not be made public.
There is no secret that will not be well known."
Mark 4:22
There is no secret that will not be well known."
Mark 4:22
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